It’s a topic that has come up a lot lately, and it always gets me thinking. Especially when women go shopping for their own clothes.
For all the shows and books we read about men shopping, I don’t think many of them actually do it as well as women do when it comes to taking a thorough look at the possibilities and problems a potential purchase might create. Both sexes seem to be sensible when it comes to something like exploring the newest online casinos, so why shouldn’t the same sensibility be applied to shopping?
Shopping alone for clothes, shoes, accessories, furniture and linens is much more difficult, at least from my perspective. Men generally do not like to spend as much time examining the options. Even if they do, many of them tend to buy more lightly, not giving their opinions or concerns enough weight to influence their decisions.
When I am shopping for myself, I don’t do what I’m told to do, or what I’ve heard or read to do.
I look around and I compare different items to each other. Then I look at their problems and possible solutions. Then I check out their strengths.
I try to be thorough in my research, and to do that I have to go through different stages.
First I try to decide what I need. Then I decide how much of what I need to purchase I am willing to pay for. Then I spend time figuring out if there is a way I can use what I already have instead of buying new. Sometimes I’ll look at a new possibility, and if it’s of enough quality, I’ll decide to look into it. If it’s not good enough I’ll go back to looking at items that aren’t of quality but that I want.
I’ll do this until I know how much it is going to cost, and if I have the ability to pay it. Then I’ll tell myself I’m going to shop more carefully from now on, and I’ll give that more of my attention.
I still like to take a good look around, but when I do I spend a lot more time thinking, analyzing, comparing, learning.
That takes a lot of effort, but once I have done it, I will find that my choices have been stronger. My opinions will have been more thorough.
Men are more likely to quickly settle for something that appears strong and solid, and perhaps fits well. Women generally find that shopping is an endless temptation to look around. They try new items over and over, taking a good look around each time. In the meantime, it’s hard for them to think clearly, to learn and to understand what their needs are.
That is one thing I believe women do that makes them more thorough when shopping, and so that is one reason that women get better deals.
One of the hardest things for men to do when shopping is to resist the urge to shop badly, looking for quick solutions, buying something that doesn’t match and won’t fit right. It’s like a fly buying a juice for the first time. It always ends badly.
Many women shop for less money, thinking their personal styles, activities and tastes are simple, but that’s not always true.
It’s easy to tell someone who is spending lots of money to buy a dress that they shouldn’t. It’s much harder to tell someone to spend more money, thinking that they are better off if they do.