Many parents will want to shelter their children from painful divorce proceedings as much as possible. Unfortunately, kids can be more observant than you think. You must therefore do everything in your power to provide your children with normality, regardless of how bitter or painful a divorce might be. Learn how to maintain a happy home for your children during a divorce.
Try to Create a Sense of Normality
Your children are bound to be upset that their mother or father has left the family home. For this reason, you should try to create a sense of normality to support your kids through this difficult time. This means not only embarking on your regular routine, while allowing them to see and speak to their Mom or Dad routinely.
Have Fun with Your Children
A divorce battle will be more than a little upsetting for both you and your children. It is, however, important to set your feelings to one side so that you can lift your kids’ spirits. Find different ways to have a little fun within the home. For example, you can play board games, bake cookies, or you could even decorate your child’s bedroom to make them feel happier within the home. Allow them to participate in the process so they can put their own stamp on their space.
Don’t Involve Your Children in the Process
Your children do not need to know you are attempting to collect concrete digital evidence against your partner from their laptop, and they certainly do not need to know why you have chosen to divorce their Mom or Dad in the first place. It’s important to shield your children from every aspect of the divorce proceedings as much as possible, which can avoid upset and stress. If you need to release your anger or frustration, turn to a loved one or counsellor and not your kids, or they may grow up to resent you.
Help Your Children Adapt to Their New Home
If both you and your ex-partner are sharing custody of your children during the divorce proceedings, it might be initially overwhelming for a child to adjust to their parent’s new home. Ensure your child doesn’t feel like a visitor in the new home by providing them with essential items to take with them, such as a toothbrush, pajamas, clothing, toys, and their favorite cereal.
You could even ask your ex-partner to decorate their bedroom prior to their arrival, if they haven’t already done so, so they will immediately feel at home. It’s important both you and your ex work together to make your children feel loved, safe, and happy, regardless of the painful or bitter divorce process.
Don’t Make Your Children Choose
Never make your child choose between two parents, and don’t keep track of their time, which will make your partner feel as if they are on the clock. You simply need to be a great parent for your children when you are together, which can avoid upset or arguments, and can provide children with a new normal.